Archive for December 10th, 2007

He Says, She Says

Monday, December 10th, 2007

talking headsToday the owner of the personal care home, CA, telephoned me to let me know that Friendly Neighbors, the company/agency that referred her personal care home to us, was recommending a day program for my son, DS. I asked if it was mandatory for him to attend a program, and she said no. That is good because DS had a bad experience with a program in October. I was certain he would not agree but I said I would discuss it with DS.

When I spoke with DS about it he was opposed, as I knew he would be. Then I thought I would bring up with him the issue of his washing, and I asked if I cleaned the carpets with the rug machine whether it would help him to feel better. He did not promise that it would, but he said it would be nice if I cleaned the carpets. I said I would come on Sunday. Then he wanted to know what CA had said about his washing. I said she said he was showering twice a day, changing his clothes twice a day. He denied that, flat. I don’t know why she would make something like that up, but I suppose she could have mistaken the sound of water running upstairs for a shower when he was washing hands or cleaning. And I can easily suppose that DS is sufficiently aware¬†of what is going on to hide anything that could be construed as strange because he does not want his medication increased or to end up in the hospital again.

I was a bit worried about him sounding angry again. It seems like he is always angry with me. I am the one who does most of the helping and taking care of him.